Sunday, January 06, 2013

On Joy and Sorrow

Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.
And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with your tears.
And how else can it be?
The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.
Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter's oven?
And is not the lute that soothes your spirit, the very wood that was hollowed with knives?
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.
When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight. 

Some of you say, "Joy is greater than sorrow," and others say, "Nay, sorrow is the greater."
But I say unto you, they are inseparable.
Together they come, and when one sits, alone with you at your board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed. 

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.
Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.
When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and his silver,

 needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.
  - Kahlil Gibran


  1. I just wanted to reach out to you because on the 6th of January 2013 my first baby girl was stillborn. Her name is Lyra. In 2014 I was blessed with a living daughter, her name is minka.
    It is a strange sort of comfort, or maybe just connection, that on the day you marked the first year anniversary of your loss, I was giving birth to my lost little girl.
    My love to your son Toren x

    1. Hi Nomi, I am so sorry to hear about Lyra. What a beautiful name. I will always remember her on Toren's birthday. On the day she was born, we were sitting in a beautiful room, in the middle of a cemetery, honouring our son, as well as the babies whose families we met after he was born. Now I will add Lyra to my memories of that day, and also the wish that she could just be there with you and her sister. Peace out to you and your family. xo