This interview covers a lot of the information Vicki and the Sands team presented at the conference. I was struck by how different her experience was to mine when she had her stillborn daughter, Aster. It was very upsetting to think about my regrets and to realize it could have happened so differently. I told people at that presentation: "Our son was born in a dump." A few months have passed since the conference and the Still Life team continues to talk about how we can help Canada catch up to other nations in caring for newly bereaved families. One of the key messages we want to get out there is minimizing regrets for families who have experienced the death of their baby.
In this interview, Vicki talks about some of the common challenges faced by parents of stillborn babies. In addition, she gives a moving account of the precious - and in some ways, joyous - time she and her family got to spend with Aster before they had to say goodbye. Not that it wasn't heart-breakingly sad, but it was clearly different to the wrenching experience we had with Toren.