"It is a shattering tragedy...and a profoundly saddening event..."The message to me is - Toren only deserves a few days of sadness. I need to put this loss behind me (where ever that is). What I am feeling - shattered, and profoundly sad - is wrong.
This is a book that is read by millions of people. I can see why. It's one of the top titles that people turn to in difficult times to try to make sense of their loss. But that particular example does not help me! And I don't think it helps people understand the magnitude of loss when a baby dies. How can I criticize another grieving parent, especially one who has helped so many? Great, one more thing to feel bad about.
I will try to finish the book but my trust has been severely dented. Rabbi Kushner, thank you for your wonderful book but please rewrite this example!